Bhakti Sandarbha 210-211: The Mantra Guru is Also Compulsory
This anuccheda is the source of the expressions vyavahārika ("a teacher who guides one in the course of ordinary affairs") and pāramārthika-guru ("an authentic teacher in the matter of spiritual realization"). The distinction here should not be thought of as simply that of a family guru and a spiritual one.
As I stated earlier (Anuccheda 207), the path of devotion has an exoteric and esoteric aspect, and dīkṣā should be seen as primarily connected with the esoteric aspect, which is defined by the dīkṣā-guru. As the Yoga-sūtra (3.7-8) makes clear, as one progresses in spiritual absorption to the transcendental state, those stages that were previously internal become external. This is the challenge that lies behind Kṛṣṇa's instruction to give up lower dharmas for higher ones. This is what is behind the constant clarification of higher and lower levels throughout all the Sandarbhas. The sādhaka is always urged to go further and to do what is necessary, find guidance, etc., to define the ultimate desired perfection and the path to attain it. One should read the following anuccheda with that in mind.
As stated in the introduction to Anuccheda 207, strong statements about rejecting a non-Vaishnava guru and other such statements can be seen as having a subtler dimension. In fact, in this path of madhura-rasa bhakti, anything less than service to Radha is external or "functional" and this is why in this context Sri Jiva can quote SB 1.5.15 calling other duties jugupsita or abhorrent.
Anuccheda 211 reminds us that even the vyavahārika-guru is to be seen as the manifestation of Bhagavān. The verse quoted there (11.17.27) is familiar and it is generally quoted in the context of the pāramārthika-guru, so it is a bit surprising to see Sri Jiva use it in an unexpected way. This is a reminder of the complexity of guru-tattva. Just because a particular guru is seen as exoteric does not mean that he is not a manifestation of the Guru Principle. In fact, the Guru Principle is a continuum that leads us from darkness to light, step by step.
See also the following article.
The Mantra Guru is Also Compulsory
अतः श्रीमन्त्रगुरोरावश्यकत्वं सुतरामेव। तदेतत्परमार्थगुर्वाश्रयो व्यवहारिकगुर्वादिपरित्यागेनापि कर्तव्य इत्याह (भा. ५.५.१८)—
Since the śravaṇa and śikṣā gurus are both necessary, the mantra guru is therefore unquestionably so. One should accept an authentic teacher in the matter of spiritual realization, even if it means giving up a teacher who guides one in the course of ordinary affairs. With this intention Śrī Rṣabhadeva said:
गुरुर्न स स्यात् स्वजनो न स स्यात्
पिता न स स्याज्जननी न सा स्यात्।
दैवं न तत् स्यान्न पतिश्च स स्यान्
न मोचयेद्यः समुपेतमृत्युम्॥
One who cannot deliver a person for whom death has arrived cannot be considered as a guru, a relative, a father, a mother, a deity, or a husband. (SB 5.5.18)
समुपेतः सम्प्राप्तो मृत्युः संसारो येन, तम्।
In this verse the compound "for whom death has arrived" (samupeta-mṛtyuṁ) means "one who has attained death," i.e., the material world of repeated birth and death (saṁsāra).
अत उक्तं श्रीनारदेन (भा. १.५.१५) —
स्वभावरक्तस्य महान् व्यतिक्रमः। इत्यादि।
Materialistic people are by nature attached to sense pleasure. Moreover, in the name of dharma you have advised them to participate in contemptible fruitive activities. This is a great impropriety on your part because people will accept such selfish fruitive acts as the true path of religion on the authority of your statements. So if anyone tries to establish the real truth and to forbid such actions, they will not believe his words. (SB 1.5.15)
तस्मात् तावदेव तेषां गुर्वादिव्यवहारो, यावत् मृत्युमोचकं श्रीगुरुचरणं नाश्रयत इत्यर्थः॥
Therefore, one should treat those in the above-mentioned relations as teachers or respectable seniors only for as long as one has not obtained the shelter of the feet of a guru who can deliver one from the world of death.
॥ ५.५॥ श्रीऋषभदेवः स्वपुत्रान्॥२१०॥
Commentary by Satyanarayana Dasa Babaji Maharaja
The mantra-guru is compulsory on the path of bhakti. In fact, bhakti only truly begins after one has accepted mantra-dīkṣā. Śrī Rūpa Gosvāmī while enumerating the limbs of bhakti counts the acceptance of guru as the very foundation of bhakti. He writes,
guru-padāśrayas tasmāt kåñṇa-dīkṣādi-śikṣaṇam
viśrambhena guroḥ sevā sādhu-vartmānuvartanam
In the past in India everybody had a guru. A person without a guru was designated as nigura, and this word is still used as an abusive expression although people have forgotten its original meaning. There were two types of guru, the family guru and the spiritual guru. They could both be the same person or different, depending upon their qualifications. The family guru was the one who guided the family in religious ceremonies related to the varṇāśrama system, such as a child’s birth, name-giving ceremony, the sacred-thread ceremony, marriage, etc. For example, in Śrīmad Bhāgavatam we understand that Garga Muni was Kṛṣṇa's family guru, but Kṛṣṇa studied from Sandīpani Muni.
Śrī Jīva Gosvāmī designates the family guru as a vyavahārika-guru, a "functional" guru or one who guides in practical matters in daily life. This guru was supposed to be expert in dharma-śāstra, jyotiṣa and also Ayurveda. But to attain perfection in life one needs a spiritual guru, a pāramārthika guru. If there is a conflict between the two one can give up the vyavahārika-guru. There is no harm incurred in that. The reason is that the purpose of life is not to just follow the principle of dharma but to attain love for Bhagavān. That actually is the real purpose of dharma (SB 1.2.13, Anuccheda 13). Thus if dharma or guru is not leading to that ultimate goal they should be given up. That is why Kṛṣṇa recommended to give up karma or dharma once one has attained śraddhā in bhakti (11.20.9, Anuccheda 173), and Gītā (18.66). The same is instructed by Rṣbhadeva to his sons. King Bali disobeyed his family guru Śukrācārya when the latter advised him not to offer three steps of land to Bhagavān Vāmanadeva. Giving up one’s guru is usually a big offense, but in this case it was commendable on the part of Bali.
Śrī Nārada criticized Vyāsa because he only stressed the path of karma-kāṇḍa which will make people steeped in materialism. They would not like to give it up because an authority like Vyāsa has prescribed it. That is why Buddha had to come and decry the Vedas.
Even a Vyavahārika Guru Should Be Respectedअन्यदा स्वगुरौ कर्मिभिरपि भगवद्दृष्टिः कर्तव्येत्याह (भा. ११.१७.२७)—
आचार्यं मां विजानीयान्नावमन्येत कर्हिचित्।
न मर्त्यबुद्ध्यासूयेत सर्वदेवमयो गुरुः॥
Otherwise, even the followers of karma are meant to view their teacher as a manifestation of Bhagavān, as Śrī Kṛṣṇa said:
One should know the preceptor to be Myself. One should never disregard or envy him, thinking him to be a common mortal, because the guru is the embodiment of all the gods. (SB 11.17.27)ब्रह्मचारिधर्मान्तःपठितमिदम्॥
This verse was spoken in the context of the duties of a student, or brahmacārī.
Commentary by Satyanarayana Dasa Babaji Maharaja
In this verse Kṛṣṇa is referring to a vyavahārika guru and not the pāramārthika or spiritual guide because this verse is found in a section describing the duties of a brahmacārī student, which is part of the Varṇāśrama-dharma. The meaning is that even a vyavahārika guru should be treated in the same way as a pāramārthika guru as long as there is no conflict between the instructions given by them. It is only if the vyavahārika guru becomes an obstacle to the path of bhakti that one can disobey or even abandon him. The reason is that the vyavahārika guru also facilitates one’s spiritual advancement. It is for that reason that Kṛṣṇa says, “Know the preceptor to be Myself.” Even so, if the very same preceptor becomes an obstacle then he deserves to be given up because he is acting against his function.
Seeing the Divine in one's elders and teachers and behaving accordingly is a proper training and preparation for a student who will take a pāramārthika guru.
Bhakti Sandarbha 209 : The bhajana-śikṣā guru is also necessary
Bhakti Sandarbha 208 : There is No Possibility of Knowledge Without Guru
Bhakti Sandarbha 207 : Dīkṣā Guru is Only One
Bhakti Sandarbha 206 : The śravaṇa- and bhajana-śikṣā-gurus are usually the same person
Bhakti Sandarbha 204-5: Proper Deliberation on Śāstra Brings About Śraddhā in Bhajana
Bhakti Sandarbha 203: The Guru Should not be Greedy
Bhakti Sandarbha 202 : The Necessity of Guru : Different Types of Sadhus Give Different Types of Bhakti
Bhakti Sandarbha 202: The two devotional proclivities and taking a Guru
Bhakti Sandarbha 201 : The Ananya Bhakta is Superior to the Jñānī Bhakta
Bhakti Sandarbha 200 : The Intermediate Devotee Renounces Karma